Have you ever felt like you were being pulled down by all of the negativity around you? The people that are always complaining about something? The one’s that are constantly gossiping about someone else? Do you find that you want to fit in, but just don’t like all of the negative back stabbing and complaining? Or have you been caught up in all of that gossip and complaining and you just want to change things?
If any of this sounds familiar, I can totally relate and today I’m going to share some of my favorite tools and strategies for surviving and thriving when you have negative people all around you. In fact, once you implement one or more of these ideas you may find that some of those negative people will become most positive.
Did you know that your actions can inspire other people and can even change their lives. It wasn’t that many years ago, that I found myself working with a lot of negative people that constantly were complaining about the boss, the company, the work hours, the client, or anyone that didn’t think and act like them.
I remember complaining to one of the guys in the office and suddenly he said to me “I don’t want to listen to this, or continue this conversation. You have a choice, you can chose to change or you can continue complaining, it’s your choice.” I stopped in my tracks and I remember thinking, he’s right I can choose to complain or I can choose to find a positive solution. He changed my life that day, but it took me years of work to really totally stop gossiping, stop complaining and to find positive solutions and to think positively no matter how bad things got.
Awareness
The first key to making any change in your life is being aware that you have a choice and can change or make a different decision. In this case you can choose to stop gossiping, stop complaining and start doing something to change the situation.
What I noticed after my friend pointed out that I had a choice, was that every time I was involved in gossip or complaining, that I would question within myself, if I wanted to continue the conversation or change the conversation to look for a solution. The interesting thing I found was that most people just wanted to complain, they weren’t interested in looking for a solution.
In fact, I discovered most of them felt that they were powerless to change things, or they were afraid that if they tried to change things, that they would get into trouble, possibly loss their job, etc. For the most part I found that people give up their power over to fear and never live their life to their full potential and that most of them were miserable and unhappy.
That realization spurred me on to be different. Every time someone would say, aren’t you afraid you’ll lose your job, my response became, “I was looking for a job when I found this one”. Over the years, I did a lot of bold things and didn’t lose my job for doing them, in fact while many of the complainers never got a promotion, I moved up to Vice President and I didn’t have a college education like a lot of them had. My positive, I can do it attitude and my out-of-the-box thinking got respect.
So, if you are reading this article, you are already past step one, because you wouldn’t have read this far, if you weren’t aware that you can make changes in your life, you can be the positive light in the world, and by being so you just might, change someone else’s life for the better, just like my friend did for me.
Letting go of the fear
The next step in making real change is recognizing the fear and moving past it. Remember Fear stands for False Evidence Appearing Real, in more than 99% of the cases. Rarely is the fear we have something that we can substantiate. The fear of losing your job is one of the biggest when it comes to doing something different or trying to change things in your work environment. But, when you really think about it, most of us don’t really have job security anyway. We can lose our job because the company is cutting back, or the company goes out of business, is bought out by another company and you are no longer needed, etc. I got fired from one job because they asked me to violate a contract that we had with a client. My integrity and being able to look myself in the mirror and know I did the right thing was more important that my 6 figure income. Yes, I had bills to pay, etc., but truthfully, it’s amazing what can happen in your life, when you let go of the fears, live in integrity and alignment with your own values, and learn to trust your inner guidance. Miracles can happen when you let go of fear and trust that the Divine has your back.
You can experience the letting go of fear process and Krystagraph™ for Free by CLICKING HERE!
Self-Love
The next key in making changes is loving yourself enough to be able to claim your own power and not allow others to persuade you into negativity. It’s easy to get caught up because you are trying to fit in, you have to work with these people, or live with these people, etc. It’s easy to make excuses when we don’t love ourselves enough to be who we are fully.
Because of how we are brought up, we are constantly being bombarded with the idea that we aren’t normal, if we don’t fit in and do what our parents, teachers, religious leaders are telling us to do.
The key here is to notice how often you give up your power to fit in, to be normal. How often do you put off doing what you love, and instead do something that other people want to do? Once you notice these patterns it’s important to identify what your beliefs are that have kept you from doing what you love and being who you are. Then of course start changing those beliefs. You can change those beliefs by doing affirmations, following my Belief Replacement process, which you’ll find in every eBook I write, and most importantly continually affirming that you are worthy, lovable and love yourself, not just through words, but through actions. Carve out time to do something you love every day. Carve out time each week to do something you love that takes a 1/2 day or whatever time you can. The more time you give yourself, the more you are affirming that you are worth of love.
Remove yourself from situations that are negative. When you find yourself stuck with a group of people who are gossiping or just being really negative, excuse yourself from the conversation and do something you love instead.
And…
If you w
ant to give yourself the gift of Self-Love and speed up the process I am certain you will find the Krystagraphs for Self-Love eBook and Subliminal recordings of immense Value.
Learn More About This Special Reduced Price Offer NOW!
Will You Lose Friends?
One of the big questions I get is won’t I lose all of my friends? Won’t my family disown me?
My short answer is… If they aren’t servicing you well, why does it matter. I certainly lost many friends and even family members stopped speaking to me, and yet the new friends (many of which I call my new family) are there for me far more than people I let go of as I started loving myself more and not wanting to be in that negative energy.
Life is a journey, in the end, will you be happy with your choices, or regret your decisions? If you ask this question as you make each choice in life, the answers become really clear fast.
You can also visualize yourself attracting the right and perfect people into your life. I found doing this on a daily basis extremely helpful as I was transforming my life and shedding the negativity. In fact, I continue to do this regularly. It’s amazing when you put love out into the world and expect it to show up in your life, how beautiful life will become.
SECURE & CONFIDENTIAL
Leave a Reply