I’m not really sure when I stopped worrying, but it was at a fairly young age. I believe I was 19 or 20 years old, when I came to the realization, that all of the worrying that I was doing, wasn’t going to change whatever the outcome was going to be. I remember at the time, I was married, and I was constantly worried if my husband was 10 minutes late. I’d start wondering if he had been in an accident, and I would conjure up all of these things in my head, all of he bad things that might have happened. Then suddenly there he was walking in the door, having been caught in a traffic jam. Back then we didn’t have mobile phones to alert another person as to why we were late, and we couldn’t call to see if the other person was okay.

After several times of fretting and making up wild stories in my head, I realized that no matter how much energy I put into thinking about what might have happened, that I actually couldn’t control it and that I was wasting energy. Does this sound familiar to you?

I was recently speaking to a friend who was about to sign an agreement with another person, but during the entire process of coming up with the agreement, my friend was anxious and continually was doubting that the person really was going to do what they said they would. He was constantly double checking everything to make sure that nothing was missed. He was sure that the other person would eventually try to get out of that agreement. The agreement was signed and everything seemed to be going well, when suddenly the other person started lying about what they had agreed to. Fortunately, my friend had taken the right precautions to protect their interests, but it made me start to wonder, if my friend helped create that reality, by continually fretting and carrying on. As many of us have heard the saying… “Be careful what you ask for you just might get it”. 

So, this got me thinking again about the power of our mind and what we put out into the universe and what we create from those thoughts and words. Looking at the two scenarios above, one might say that we aren’t in control at all, and I would have to agree with you. On the other hand there is plenty of evidence that does indicate that when we focus our attention on something for a long period of time, we create that reality. So, it is quite possible, had I continued to worry about my husband on a regular basis that something bad may have eventually happened. We’ll never know, but what I do know is that the amount of energy put into worrying and fretting about things is certainly beyond a shadow of a doubt a waste of time and more importantly our energy.

I’m not saying that my friend shouldn’t have been cautious to be sure all details were covered in their agreement, what I am saying is that the time and energy expended in worrying about it, was wasted and possibly because of the long term focus (months of concern that the friend would back out or deny the agreement), my friend may have helped to create the reality that the other person ended up denying what was in writing in their agreement.

We can all learn how to stop worrying by following the simple steps I’ve outlined below. By taking these steps you will gain more time to do things you enjoy, have less stress in your life, and be much happier.

The first step is noticing. Notice when you are worrying about someone or something. Be especially aware of things you are dwelling on and in particular things that you are obsessed about, especially over a long period of time. Notice whether the thing you are worrying about has similarities to other things you worry about as well.

The second step is to take a moment and breath. I mean really breath. Take a deep breathe in through your nose until you fill your lungs and your belly. Hold the breathe for several seconds and then let it out through your mouth with a big sigh, while releasing whatever you were worried about. Do this for at least 3 deep breathes.

The third step is that once you have noticed and taken those all important deep breathes, immediately change your focus and see everything working out perfectly. Actually visualize the results you really want to happen.

The fourth step is to check in and determine if this is a pattern? Do you repetitively worry about someone being injured or killed? Do you regularly assume that anyone you are signing an agreement with will back out of the agreement? Whatever your worry is ask yourself is this a pattern. If it is, look deeper at your beliefs and fears. Worry is just a type of fear.

Once you have determined that there is a pattern, to get lasting relief you’ll want to go deeper into your underlying beliefs and fears and release those fears and change the beliefs around those fears.

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